So, where are we now with flock friendships & relationships? It has been over 6 months since Perry & Lennie joined Bezukhov & Dalai. I would like to say that things have settled down & they are all living nicely together…. but although all is well, the two camps (blue & green) still sleep separately, & time out together is still supervised.
The reasons for the lack of integration are many & varied, hence the simplified description of “It’s complicated“!
However, I will attempt to list the ‘fault lines’:
An obvious cause of friction is that Perry & Lennie are young & Bezukhov & Dalai are older. Yes, Dalai is not much older than Perry & Lennie, but they still have that childlike, exuberant way about them that Dalai has grown out of. Lennie is also like the Duracell Bunny – he can just keep going. Perry likes to chill out & will take a nap occasionally during the day, but Lennie is currently happy to keep going.
Lennie is clearly more immature than Perry even though they are the same age. Because of his babyish behaviour, he can come across a bit mad & crazy. To Bezukhov’s distaste, Lennie’s behaviour can also be unpredictable.
- Social Skills
Continuing on from the above two points, Lennie also appears to have social skills that are a bit wanting. He will directly fly into another’s face. Lennie also performs the ‘bottom wipe’, which is a new maneuvre (to me) whereby he flies so close over one of them that he all but wipes his bottom on their head! He also will fly to land on the perch where another is sat, not alongside, but the very same spot. He does not understand about personal space! Another of his ‘lovable’ quirks is that he will grab a piece of food out of the other one’s beak!
So as not to make it sound like Lennie is the problem (!), Perry also does not help things because he is happy to be friends & flirt with all, which in itself is a lovely thing, but it can, & does, cause jealousies!
Dalai is also not exempt from being part of the problem. He is still ‘jabby’ with his beak & does not suffer fools gladly.
Good-hearted Bezukhov is the best behaved. He does not court trouble. He does not welcome chaos or anarchy. He appreciates others’ boundaries. And yet, out of the four, Bezukhov comes off worse (hence my supervising whilst they are all out together). I am not sure why that is the case, but can only repeat….. it’s complicated!