Puddings & Toyboys

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How we are coping post-Bezukhov

It is 8 weeks since we lost Bezukhov.  I think of him all the time & miss him.

Dalai, Perry & Lennie are coping well without him.  There are some videos at the end of this post.

Dalai, Perry & Lennie

Dalai appears to be ‘top bird’.  He always thought it before, but I think Bezukhov’s presence put a question mark over it.  Lennie still runs around after Dalai.  Perry is easy-going & just goes with the flow & if the flow means that Dalai calls most of the shots, then so be it.

At the time of Bezukhov’s death, both he & Dalai shared the Silver Villa & Perry & Lennie’s home was the New Villa.  Since Bezukhov’s passing, Perry & Lennie spend all day in the Silver Villa with Dalai but come bedtime, things revert to how they were.

I have been prepared for them all sharing overnight but this has not happened yet.  It seems that Dalai still wants his own space at bedtime.  He does tend to retire to bed quite early & has his last feed early too.  Bezukhov liked to get in several feeds before the cover went over but was mindful of not disturbing Dalai.

Perry, Lennie, Dalai & Tweety Pie

As the evening draws in, Dalai usually gives a sign that it is time for his visitors to return to their own home.  He will vacate the Silver Villa & most of the time both Perry & Lennie follow him out, which gives me the opportunity to close up the Silver Villa & then allow Dalai back in alone.  I was concerned that maybe I was unconsciously causing this situation so experimented by not closing up the Silver Villa.  What resulted was that Dalai got increasingly tetchy as his bedtime rapidly approached.  He would beak anyone who sat on the same perch as him & generally made himself unpleasant to be around!  One evening, I heard a shriek as Perry flew out & landed on the plant pot stand.  When I went over to investigate, I noticed Dalai had a blue feather in his beak!  His solo bedtime was overdue!

So things are sorting themselves out.  Reflecting on how things have been, I wonder if myself & Bezukhov were the most strongly bonded, given that the others have been coping much better than I have.

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Atilla-less

So, how are we coping without Atilla?

The first evening, Cagney struggled.  He shouted a lot.  He kept going to all corners of the Manor looking for Atilla.  In the end I think he wore himself out & settled down to sleep on the peg.  Both boys must have had a restful night judging by their little overnight poop hills.

The following morning Cagney was desperate to get out the Manor.  He was pacing up & down & shouting.  He seemed hyper & a little manic.  I hurriedly opened the manor & he flew around for a bit. I got the feeling that he knew Atilla was not in the Manor so therefore he must get out.  Either way, getting out did not really solve his problem.

However, gradually Cagney has calmed down, & I thank Bezukhov for his calming influence.

The toyboys have always been good mates & their friendship will prove invaluable now.

As for me….. I am still struggling…. Everything seems….. “normal”.  Atilla was not a normal bird.  She was special.   Her presence was huge.  I have yet to remove the tea towel from the back of the poang chair (protecting it from Atilla’s chewing).  I have yet to remove the cushions from around the base of furniture (in case Atilla landed on the floor & slid into anything hard).  I have yet to remove her “stairway“. 

For the boys sake, I removed the electric blanket & the covers are in the wash.  The Manor has been rearranged slightly, mainly to take out some perches to give the boys more flying room.  It had got quite cluttered with all the perches to help Atilla get around.  Like I say….. it’s more “normal” now….

We continue to take each day as it comes.