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Power Couples: Lennikhov

Bezukhov & Lennie

The relationship between these two reminded me at times of when Phineas first joined Bezukhov & Cagney.   Lennie instinctively did not like Bezukhov because he perceived that he was in the way of him getting to Dalai (similarly, Phineas viewed Bezukhov as a barrier to him getting to his beloved Cagney).

Lennie would chase Bezukhov out of the way & most of the time Bezukhov would stay clear but if he was too slow, Lennie might pull a feather or two.  As with Phineas, Bezukhov was extremely patient with Lennie & never appeared to hold anything against him.  In fact, there were times when Lennie would go to chase Bezukhov off & Bezukhov would stand his ground & attempt to engage with him.  Lennie would be surprised by this reaction & actually would respond to Bezukhov & there were many occasions when they did have a flirt.  I believe that if Dalai was not viewed as the ‘prize’, then Lennie & Bezukhov would have been good friends.  It is testament to Bezukhov’s good nature that they did have some good times together.

You can see them flirting in the video on the “Power Couples” post (click here).

In the video below, you can see an interesting exchange, rarely caught on video.  Bezukhov is flirting with Perry & Lennie goes to interrupt but Bezukhov stands his ground, puffs his chest out & takes Lennie by surprise:

 

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Power Couples: Perrikhov

Bezukhov & Perry

Bezukhov & Perry had a lovely relationship.  Perry clearly respected Bezukhov.  Bezukhov clearly had a soft spot for Perry.

Bezukhov was usually the one to instigate any flirting – I think Perry did not want to overstep his bounds with his elder by starting a flirt first.  Often they would sit together & Bezukhov would twitter away & Perry would gaze up at him, taking in every chirp, cheep & tweet, not even interrupting.  I could only assume that Bezukhov was imparting golden gems of wisdom that Perry wanted to concentrate on.

Bezukhov liked to preen Perry’s white head & also regurgitated to him.

 

Power Couples

Note: I started writing this post some time ago, when Bezukhov was still with us.  I have decided to continue, with some reworking of the text.

It has been some time since I have commented on friendships & relationships within the flock.

Lennie, Perry, Bezukhov & Dalai

On the positive side, all is well & all are friends.  On the ever-so slightly negative side, Perry & Lennie still live separately from Dalai (& Bezukhov when he was with us), though they have outside-cage time together.  When Bezukhov was around, their time together was largely monitored, but since his passing, there is less ‘argy-bargy’ (for want of a better word!)  It would have been nice if they all lived in harmony in the same cage, but I was content for them to have daytime together.

As far as individual friendships, it is & was, as complicated & confusing as ever, though this may well be par for the course where budgies are concerned!

Bezukhov & Dalai were good friends even though they were very different in character.  Bezukhov was easy-going & did not like conflict or court conflict.  Dalai believes he is the leader but whereas a true leader would always act for the benefit of the flock, Dalai, it has to be said, is mainly out for himself!

Perry & Lennie have been living together since their quarantine days.  They too are very different from each other but get on well as cage-mates.  Perry is pretty calm regarding friendships & relationships, whereas Lennie is a bit highly-strung & also can get jealous of others!

When all four of them mixed, we got different temporary couplings:

 *  Strength of coupling

In a series of posts I will attempt to describe each of the couplings in more detail.  In the meantime, enjoy this video of the four of them:

 

 

How we are coping post-Bezukhov

It is 8 weeks since we lost Bezukhov.  I think of him all the time & miss him.

Dalai, Perry & Lennie are coping well without him.  There are some videos at the end of this post.

Dalai, Perry & Lennie

Dalai appears to be ‘top bird’.  He always thought it before, but I think Bezukhov’s presence put a question mark over it.  Lennie still runs around after Dalai.  Perry is easy-going & just goes with the flow & if the flow means that Dalai calls most of the shots, then so be it.

At the time of Bezukhov’s death, both he & Dalai shared the Silver Villa & Perry & Lennie’s home was the New Villa.  Since Bezukhov’s passing, Perry & Lennie spend all day in the Silver Villa with Dalai but come bedtime, things revert to how they were.

I have been prepared for them all sharing overnight but this has not happened yet.  It seems that Dalai still wants his own space at bedtime.  He does tend to retire to bed quite early & has his last feed early too.  Bezukhov liked to get in several feeds before the cover went over but was mindful of not disturbing Dalai.

Perry, Lennie, Dalai & Tweety Pie

As the evening draws in, Dalai usually gives a sign that it is time for his visitors to return to their own home.  He will vacate the Silver Villa & most of the time both Perry & Lennie follow him out, which gives me the opportunity to close up the Silver Villa & then allow Dalai back in alone.  I was concerned that maybe I was unconsciously causing this situation so experimented by not closing up the Silver Villa.  What resulted was that Dalai got increasingly tetchy as his bedtime rapidly approached.  He would beak anyone who sat on the same perch as him & generally made himself unpleasant to be around!  One evening, I heard a shriek as Perry flew out & landed on the plant pot stand.  When I went over to investigate, I noticed Dalai had a blue feather in his beak!  His solo bedtime was overdue!

So things are sorting themselves out.  Reflecting on how things have been, I wonder if myself & Bezukhov were the most strongly bonded, given that the others have been coping much better than I have.

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It’s complicated

So, where are we now with flock friendships & relationships?  It has been over 6 months since Perry & Lennie joined Bezukhov & Dalai.  I would like to say that things have settled down & they are all living nicely together…. but although all is well, the two camps (blue & green) still sleep separately, & time out together is still supervised.

The reasons for the lack of integration are many & varied, hence the simplified description of “It’s complicated“!

However, I will attempt to list the ‘fault lines’:

  • Ages

An obvious cause of friction is that Perry & Lennie are young & Bezukhov & Dalai are older.  Yes, Dalai is not much older than Perry & Lennie, but they still have that childlike, exuberant way about them that Dalai has grown out of.  Lennie is also like the Duracell Bunny – he can just keep going.  Perry likes to chill out & will take a nap occasionally during the day, but Lennie is currently happy to keep going.

  • Immaturity

Lennie is clearly more immature than Perry even though they are the same age.  Because of his babyish behaviour, he can come across a bit mad & crazy.  To Bezukhov’s distaste, Lennie’s behaviour can also be unpredictable.

  • Social Skills

Continuing on from the above two points, Lennie also appears to have social skills that are a bit wanting.  He will directly fly into another’s face.  Lennie also performs the ‘bottom wipe’, which is a new maneuvre (to me) whereby he flies so close over one of them that he all but wipes his bottom on their head!  He also will fly to land on the perch where another is sat, not alongside, but the very same spot.  He does not understand about personal space!  Another of his ‘lovable’ quirks is that he will grab a piece of food out of the other one’s beak!

  • Friendliness

So as not to make it sound like Lennie is the problem (!), Perry also does not help things because he is happy to be friends & flirt with all, which in itself is a lovely thing, but it can, & does, cause jealousies!

  • Unfriendliness

Dalai is also not exempt from being part of the problem.  He is still ‘jabby’ with his beak & does not suffer fools gladly.

 

Good-hearted Bezukhov is the best behaved.  He does not court trouble.  He does not welcome chaos or anarchy.  He appreciates others’ boundaries.  And yet, out of the four, Bezukhov comes off worse (hence my supervising whilst they are all out together).  I am not sure why that is the case, but can only repeat….. it’s complicated!

 

Phinny no-mates

Phineas still adores Cagney.  As soon as Cagney moves, Phineas is there, right in front of him, following behind him or above him on the bars.

Cagney, did you call?

Cagney, did you call?

Cagney does not feel the same way about Phineas.  If truth be told, I believe Cagney gets frustrated at not being about to move without having to push past Phineas.  Sometimes he cannot eat because Phineas is trying to kiss him at the same time.  As nice as it must be to have such attention, it must be wearing to have it all the time!

Phineas tries too hard with Cagney.  He does not know when to stop or to hold back.   Add to this, that he chases Bezukhov away as he wants Cagney all to himself.  This action in itself would not endear him to Cagney as Cagney is very fond of his mate Bezukhov.  It certainly does not endear him to Bezukhov.  There are times when Bezukhov stops Phineas in his tracks to engage him in a conversation.  Phineas seems surprised by this & although he tentatively gives Bezukhov a listening ear, does not appear to respond or further the conversation.

Bezukhov is particularly wary of Phineas as there have been about 3 occasions when he has not run away quick enough & Phineas has grabbed him by the wing or the head (when leaning over the top of the cage).

Probably unsurprisingly, Cagney & Bezukhov have not wanted Phineas to sleep overnight with them.  They make this quite clear.  During the evening, as it comes to bedtime, if Phineas sits in Manor loft area, both Cagney & Bezukhov will vacate it.  Read more of this post

Phinny’s new best friend

Phineas has made a new friend.  He does not answer back & seems to agree with all that Phinny tells him.  He has eyelashes to die for too. 🙂

Toyboy time

When left to their own devices, i.e., when Phineas is locked up in his own cage, Cagney & Bezukhov still like to run around together.  They are great mates.  They also have their “bonding” moments.  I love to see them head bopping, beak tapping & getting excited.  Phineas does not allow them to do this so I try to allow them some quality toyboy time each day to remind themselves of their affection for each other.

Atilla-less

So, how are we coping without Atilla?

The first evening, Cagney struggled.  He shouted a lot.  He kept going to all corners of the Manor looking for Atilla.  In the end I think he wore himself out & settled down to sleep on the peg.  Both boys must have had a restful night judging by their little overnight poop hills.

The following morning Cagney was desperate to get out the Manor.  He was pacing up & down & shouting.  He seemed hyper & a little manic.  I hurriedly opened the manor & he flew around for a bit. I got the feeling that he knew Atilla was not in the Manor so therefore he must get out.  Either way, getting out did not really solve his problem.

However, gradually Cagney has calmed down, & I thank Bezukhov for his calming influence.

The toyboys have always been good mates & their friendship will prove invaluable now.

As for me….. I am still struggling…. Everything seems….. “normal”.  Atilla was not a normal bird.  She was special.   Her presence was huge.  I have yet to remove the tea towel from the back of the poang chair (protecting it from Atilla’s chewing).  I have yet to remove the cushions from around the base of furniture (in case Atilla landed on the floor & slid into anything hard).  I have yet to remove her “stairway“. 

For the boys sake, I removed the electric blanket & the covers are in the wash.  The Manor has been rearranged slightly, mainly to take out some perches to give the boys more flying room.  It had got quite cluttered with all the perches to help Atilla get around.  Like I say….. it’s more “normal” now….

We continue to take each day as it comes.

The Three Musketeers

It has been a couple of months since Raspy’s untimely passing. 

Atilla, Cagney & Bezukhov have been coping well in her absence.  I believe the transition from 4 to 3 was made easier by them knowing that Raspy had passed on.  I like to think that soon after she took her last breath, her spirit was released & she flew around the room & gave her sister, her boyfriend & her Manor-mate a kiss before making her way to the Fields of Millet, Wild Grass & Swinging Perches.

Raspy’s presence was quite “challenging”.   She was the only one with the guts to stand up to Atilla.  For Cagney, Raspy was a challenge to woo – a tough cookie who never cracked.  She was, of course, totally committed to chubby chops himself, Bezukhov…

Bezukhov is lucky to have his mate Cagney to run & fly around with.  Their friendship in that respect has not changed at all.  However, there are times when Cagney is busy canoodling with Atilla, & Bezuky can look a bit lost, as if he’s thinking, “I used to have a lovely girl to canoodle with….”  At those times I try to give him some extra attention.  He is always ready to talk to my fingernail & has quite animated conversations.  I also hand feed him pellets. I would hate for him to feel left out. 

He is still fond of Atilla & tries to converse with her but she either ignores him or goes to give him a thump (no change there then).  It is nice that her behaviour towards him has not changed.  Occasionally she allows him to eat from the same seed pot as her, or even sit next to her on the perch.  When this happens it is almost like a signal to Cagney to not chase Bezuky away, but just let him be & I will see all 3 of them sitting comfortably together on the same perch. 🙂