Puddings & Toyboys

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It’s complicated

So, where are we now with flock friendships & relationships?  It has been over 6 months since Perry & Lennie joined Bezukhov & Dalai.  I would like to say that things have settled down & they are all living nicely together…. but although all is well, the two camps (blue & green) still sleep separately, & time out together is still supervised.

The reasons for the lack of integration are many & varied, hence the simplified description of “It’s complicated“!

However, I will attempt to list the ‘fault lines’:

  • Ages

An obvious cause of friction is that Perry & Lennie are young & Bezukhov & Dalai are older.  Yes, Dalai is not much older than Perry & Lennie, but they still have that childlike, exuberant way about them that Dalai has grown out of.  Lennie is also like the Duracell Bunny – he can just keep going.  Perry likes to chill out & will take a nap occasionally during the day, but Lennie is currently happy to keep going.

  • Immaturity

Lennie is clearly more immature than Perry even though they are the same age.  Because of his babyish behaviour, he can come across a bit mad & crazy.  To Bezukhov’s distaste, Lennie’s behaviour can also be unpredictable.

  • Social Skills

Continuing on from the above two points, Lennie also appears to have social skills that are a bit wanting.  He will directly fly into another’s face.  Lennie also performs the ‘bottom wipe’, which is a new maneuvre (to me) whereby he flies so close over one of them that he all but wipes his bottom on their head!  He also will fly to land on the perch where another is sat, not alongside, but the very same spot.  He does not understand about personal space!  Another of his ‘lovable’ quirks is that he will grab a piece of food out of the other one’s beak!

  • Friendliness

So as not to make it sound like Lennie is the problem (!), Perry also does not help things because he is happy to be friends & flirt with all, which in itself is a lovely thing, but it can, & does, cause jealousies!

  • Unfriendliness

Dalai is also not exempt from being part of the problem.  He is still ‘jabby’ with his beak & does not suffer fools gladly.

 

Good-hearted Bezukhov is the best behaved.  He does not court trouble.  He does not welcome chaos or anarchy.  He appreciates others’ boundaries.  And yet, out of the four, Bezukhov comes off worse (hence my supervising whilst they are all out together).  I am not sure why that is the case, but can only repeat….. it’s complicated!

 

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Phinny no-mates

Phineas still adores Cagney.  As soon as Cagney moves, Phineas is there, right in front of him, following behind him or above him on the bars.

Cagney, did you call?

Cagney, did you call?

Cagney does not feel the same way about Phineas.  If truth be told, I believe Cagney gets frustrated at not being about to move without having to push past Phineas.  Sometimes he cannot eat because Phineas is trying to kiss him at the same time.  As nice as it must be to have such attention, it must be wearing to have it all the time!

Phineas tries too hard with Cagney.  He does not know when to stop or to hold back.   Add to this, that he chases Bezukhov away as he wants Cagney all to himself.  This action in itself would not endear him to Cagney as Cagney is very fond of his mate Bezukhov.  It certainly does not endear him to Bezukhov.  There are times when Bezukhov stops Phineas in his tracks to engage him in a conversation.  Phineas seems surprised by this & although he tentatively gives Bezukhov a listening ear, does not appear to respond or further the conversation.

Bezukhov is particularly wary of Phineas as there have been about 3 occasions when he has not run away quick enough & Phineas has grabbed him by the wing or the head (when leaning over the top of the cage).

Probably unsurprisingly, Cagney & Bezukhov have not wanted Phineas to sleep overnight with them.  They make this quite clear.  During the evening, as it comes to bedtime, if Phineas sits in Manor loft area, both Cagney & Bezukhov will vacate it.  Read more of this post

Phinny’s new best friend

Phineas has made a new friend.  He does not answer back & seems to agree with all that Phinny tells him.  He has eyelashes to die for too. 🙂

Toyboy time

When left to their own devices, i.e., when Phineas is locked up in his own cage, Cagney & Bezukhov still like to run around together.  They are great mates.  They also have their “bonding” moments.  I love to see them head bopping, beak tapping & getting excited.  Phineas does not allow them to do this so I try to allow them some quality toyboy time each day to remind themselves of their affection for each other.

Atilla-less

So, how are we coping without Atilla?

The first evening, Cagney struggled.  He shouted a lot.  He kept going to all corners of the Manor looking for Atilla.  In the end I think he wore himself out & settled down to sleep on the peg.  Both boys must have had a restful night judging by their little overnight poop hills.

The following morning Cagney was desperate to get out the Manor.  He was pacing up & down & shouting.  He seemed hyper & a little manic.  I hurriedly opened the manor & he flew around for a bit. I got the feeling that he knew Atilla was not in the Manor so therefore he must get out.  Either way, getting out did not really solve his problem.

However, gradually Cagney has calmed down, & I thank Bezukhov for his calming influence.

The toyboys have always been good mates & their friendship will prove invaluable now.

As for me….. I am still struggling…. Everything seems….. “normal”.  Atilla was not a normal bird.  She was special.   Her presence was huge.  I have yet to remove the tea towel from the back of the poang chair (protecting it from Atilla’s chewing).  I have yet to remove the cushions from around the base of furniture (in case Atilla landed on the floor & slid into anything hard).  I have yet to remove her “stairway“. 

For the boys sake, I removed the electric blanket & the covers are in the wash.  The Manor has been rearranged slightly, mainly to take out some perches to give the boys more flying room.  It had got quite cluttered with all the perches to help Atilla get around.  Like I say….. it’s more “normal” now….

We continue to take each day as it comes.

The Three Musketeers

It has been a couple of months since Raspy’s untimely passing. 

Atilla, Cagney & Bezukhov have been coping well in her absence.  I believe the transition from 4 to 3 was made easier by them knowing that Raspy had passed on.  I like to think that soon after she took her last breath, her spirit was released & she flew around the room & gave her sister, her boyfriend & her Manor-mate a kiss before making her way to the Fields of Millet, Wild Grass & Swinging Perches.

Raspy’s presence was quite “challenging”.   She was the only one with the guts to stand up to Atilla.  For Cagney, Raspy was a challenge to woo – a tough cookie who never cracked.  She was, of course, totally committed to chubby chops himself, Bezukhov…

Bezukhov is lucky to have his mate Cagney to run & fly around with.  Their friendship in that respect has not changed at all.  However, there are times when Cagney is busy canoodling with Atilla, & Bezuky can look a bit lost, as if he’s thinking, “I used to have a lovely girl to canoodle with….”  At those times I try to give him some extra attention.  He is always ready to talk to my fingernail & has quite animated conversations.  I also hand feed him pellets. I would hate for him to feel left out. 

He is still fond of Atilla & tries to converse with her but she either ignores him or goes to give him a thump (no change there then).  It is nice that her behaviour towards him has not changed.  Occasionally she allows him to eat from the same seed pot as her, or even sit next to her on the perch.  When this happens it is almost like a signal to Cagney to not chase Bezuky away, but just let him be & I will see all 3 of them sitting comfortably together on the same perch. 🙂